Say No To Useless Suffering
If there is something that we all know how to identify as children, it is suffering. Physical suffering from a blow, an injury, an accident . But then we have that kind of suffering that hydrogen peroxide or two days of rest do not cure. It is the emotional pain, arisen by a disappointment, a disappointment, a loss … no matter how old we are, life tends to attack us without planning it and without being able to prevent it.
No one is immune from suffering, but it is essential that we know how to manage and face it, because sometimes suffering can become chronic and surround us with its painful scab.
In fact, there are many experts who tell us that suffering, for many people, can become addictive, to be what feeds their lives and the first thought with which to wake up each day.
Stop suffering, the best choice
Can you choose to stop suffering? Obviously not. Sometimes suffering is part of a process and a grief that we have to go through, to overcome. To let go Because stopping suffering is not resolved by pressing a simple switch with which to return to serenity and that emotional balance. But it is necessary to control it and see it as part of a process.
When life brings us its disappointments, its tragedies and its disappointments, we are shocked with all its violence and with all its consequences. It is inevitable to experience them and feel their pain for a time, their bruise … but only for a limited period in which to go through this introspection with ourselves.
Suffering is made up of several layers, so to speak, layers of onion that have to be torn out between tears and where to face certain emotions that are naturally organized into phases to overcome: denial, tiredness, dejection, anger, rage, self-criticism, guilt, resignation, rationalization, acceptance …
To choose to stop suffering, there must be a clear will to improve. To take a step towards a more suitable tomorrow in which, to feel better and to obtain an emotional and personal learning of what happened.
We all have the right to fall, of course, but also to emerge stronger from what happened. A love disappointment, a professional or personal failure … these are dimensions that break us inside and that we must suffer in all its reality, and even cry, but it is also essential to acquire some kind of learning about what happened to be a little wiser, more stronger and fitter in this complex labyrinth that is life.
An important aspect to bear in mind is that in order to “be well” it is essential that we do not fall into denial. Never deny what happened. If you have failed admit your mistake, if your personal relationship is not going well, admit it, acknowledge it and avoid further unnecessary suffering.
Denial is that wall that will make suffering an eternal state. And one way to realize the presence of this wall is for you to identify the two parts that are in you. All of us have two people inside us: the one who observes and the one who experiences.
The observer is the key to our personal healing, it is he who will help us to realize what is happening not only around us, but also within us. He is the one who will read between the lines and who will uncover the veils on faces.
Observe yourself, sit down and ask yourself what you can do to feel better, to abandon what is hurting you and preventing you from being yourself. Search your inner harmony to become aware of emotional suffering.
Strive to put aside useless suffering, do not suffer for those who do not deserve it or make eternal situations that no longer have a solution. Admitting it, facing it and assuming it will be the essential steps for that personal and emotional healing.
