If You Settle For Crumbs, You Will Always Be Weak And Hungry

The crumbs allow you to survive, to jump from one place to another through time. They allow you to continue living, but they barely support you, dragging your self-esteem and your illusions. There are too many people settling for crumbs who have great sensitivity and talent, and too many people tasting the entire cake without the slightest hint of decency and sentiment.

If there were no people who settle for crumbs, there would be no people filled with ego and self-indulgence, or at least they would have it more complicated. These are people who complement each other by creating toxic relationships : the sadist with the masochist, the selfless worker and the exploiting boss, the devoted husband and the harassing wife. The wise father and the son turned into a “little tyrant.”

Do you think that these continuums that have become dichotomies to be able to relate in the most comfortable and easy way came out of nowhere? Do you think some of us are born willing to settle for crumbs and others capable of eating the whole cake over and over again?

Logically, this is not the case. Neither phrenology showed that blacks had cleft brains that predisposed them to submission, nor did whites have a brain structure that made them both masters and worthy rulers.

The ability not to rebel comes from far away and the result is a self-esteem cornered and dwarfed by fears that are actually mere shadows, thoughts of smoke that do not have any kind of parallel story in reality except the chains that they impose on the people who they got it.

The crumbs just to survive today

Our crumbs to survive today are hunger and uncertainty for tomorrow. It is not easy to detect when they are giving you crumbs and when you are receiving what makes you feel strong and whole. Take the case of a woman who seeks love and continually runs into men who lie and who also ignore her, giving them an irrelevant role in their lives.

This woman values ​​love, feeling accompanied, the intimacy of hugs. You need some dose of it to “keep pulling.” Yet she gives so much and settles for so little that in the end she finds none of it. He finds a kiss among hundreds of rudeness, hears a beautiful phrase after a large number of contradicting facts and finds himself sleeping with someone whom he knows less and less every day.

Think that loving without asking for anything in return is different from giving yourself without limit, until you find yourself dry and exhausted, with nothing positive to compensate for it. Until you end up in a situation where there aren’t even any burning nails left to grab onto.

You don’t have to enter into a contract to know how much you are willing to lose each time. It is not about anticipating possible damages and prejudices. Your self-esteem needs eyes wide open, ears that listen intelligently and a memory that knows how to relate what you have just experienced with what you do not really want to happen again.

If you want to have your self-esteem covered and your life plans in view and not adrift, do not let others give you crumbs and see how you conform and you are even grateful for it, because perhaps you have come to think which is the only thing you can aspire to.

The result is a vicious cycle: at the end of a relationship you will always be weak and hungry, settling for the crumbs from here and there, unable to ever taste the whole cake because you have convinced yourself that you do not deserve it and others have believed it. . And they seem to love that, for their comfort and play. Before the crumbs, indifference.